Facing difficulties in married life is nothing new, but when these difficulties exceed the limit and a woman does not have mental and emotional peace, her heart inclines towards a separate and peaceful environment. The emergence of such a desire is neither a sin nor ingratitude; rather, it is a sign that a woman wants peace and balance in her life. Often, women keep this matter in their hearts and cannot express it to anyone, because they fear being misunderstood. However, the reality is that Islam has also given great importance to peace of heart. But since worldly resources are limited, not every wish can be fulfilled immediately. In such times, prayer (dua) becomes the means that opens closed doors. Dua is the most beautiful way to speak with Allah, where a woman can lighten the burden of her heart. When this same dua is made repeatedly and with complete faith in Allah, it becomes a wazifa (a regular devotional practice). Wazifa plays an important role in strengthening the heart, making thoughts positive, and improving circumstances. With this same confidence, we are telling you about a tried and tested spiritual practice that is specifically for those Muslim women who desire a separate home, and Insha’Allah, by its blessings, you will soon be granted success.
Wazifa
Dear sister, if you wish for your prayer to be accepted and the matter of separate living to become easy, then adopt the wazifa of “Rabbana taqabbal minna innaka antas Samee’ul Aleem”. This blessed verse is Verse 127 of Surah Al-Baqarah, and Surah Al-Baqarah is in Para 1. On a Friday, after Isha prayer, recite Durood Sharif 10 times at the beginning and 10 times at the end, and in between, recite “Rabbana taqabbal minna innaka antas Samee’ul Aleem” 313 times. Remain steadfast in this practice for 14 days. Do not keep hatred in your heart, make prayer a habit, and be regular in your prayers (salah) and charity (sadaqah). Afterwards, continue reciting Durood Sharif 10 times and this same supplication 10 times daily.
Reasons for Not Taking a Separate House
Dear sister, we feel that your husband is talkative, sociable, and accustomed to taking life lightly. He derives mental satisfaction from the vibrancy of the environment, the presence of people, and the hustle and bustle of shared living. He feels that living separately would make his life boring, lonely, or burdened by responsibilities, and for this reason, such people are sometimes not serious about getting a separate home.
Sometimes, the jealousy or nazar-e-bad (evil eye) present in the home distracts such a husband’s attention, as a result of which he makes unthoughtful decisions or adopts the habit of putting things off. In cases of black magic or negative influences, his natural cheerfulness temporarily turns into restlessness, anger, or carelessness, and he starts to shy away from any permanent or serious change. Thus, he continues to ignore the demand for a separate home, considering it a temporary wish.
In such a situation, the better strategy for the wife is to speak while keeping in mind her husband’s cheerful and expressive nature. Instead of using a harsh tone or complaints, she should positively explain that getting a separate home could increase freedom, peace, and pleasant moments in both their lives. The husband should be made to feel that this decision will not limit his personality, but rather give him more confidence and peace. Occasionally, talking lightly about future dreams, a better lifestyle, and building their own world can spark interest in his heart. Simultaneously, efforts should continue to reduce jealousy, nazar-e-bad, and negative effects through prayer, charity, and positive thinking. When the wife consistently provides gentleness, appreciation, and a sense of companionship, the husband gradually starts taking this idea seriously and begins to become inclined towards a separate home.
For haste in obtaining a separate home, it is necessary that the spiritual aspect is not ignored along with worldly measures. If you continue the previously mentioned practice regularly and also keep making practical efforts alongside it, then by Allah’s command, the blessing of this practice will be with you. Thus, ease will be created in every practical effort made for a separate home, and the paths to success will begin to be paved quickly.
